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It is crazy to think that you can teach children to be well behaved in a week, or a month or even a year! Good behaviour is something that you are constantly teaching and demonstrating throughout a child's life and its not really something that is either learned or now.
Here are a few guidelines:
- If children come to blows (and it does happen!) first pay attention to the child who is hurt. Turn your back to the aggressor (so they get no attention), give a hug and reassurance to the child who is harmed. Then deal with the child who did the aggressive action. Make it clear you are upset with them, but don't give them too much attention as this may have been their aim.
- Try and keep your voice level even when the little ones are getting disruptive. Screaming and shouting does not work and just makes the situation louder and more aggressive. Try to keep your voice level.
- Try to avoid confrontation by leading them away from an action before they do it. If you see someone climbing onto the coffee table, get in there quickly to avert the standing on the table and distract them away.
- When someone is behaving badly, ignore it if you can and give no extra attention. Turn your back, remove them from the room and instead focus on the good behaving children. Attention can be contagious and you will find everyone wanting that positive focus!
- Have rules that everyone understands and keep a chart on the wall to remind them: no biting, kicking, hitting or pushing over. Offer lots of kind hands, nice talking and sharing. Point to the rules when they need a reminder.
- Remember you are the adult! Don't get stroppy and angry yourself if things are not going right! Try to stay cool!
- If someone is hurting another, rather than punishing them, encourage instead to comfort their friend and make right what they did - turn the behaviour around.
- Teach children to look after themselves. If someone is snatching or pushing, instead of crying or shouting for mummy teach them to say, "Stop! I don't like it!" or "Stop! That is hurting me!". Give them the power and the means to try and deal with the situation.
- Keep to your threats. If you threaten you will go home from play group if they snatch again, you must see it through no matter how much fun you were having with the other mums!
- Be fair and treat everyone equally. Yes different children respond to different threats etc, but keep things easy.
- Keep it positive, give lots of praise, and have fun!